Regulation has become such a buzzword (…you might agree), but have you ever stopped to ask why it really matters?
When regulated, there are options and choices for behavior. However, when dysregulated, behavioral options become limited, and students’ bodies often take over, doing whatever it takes to stay safe. While this makes sense when you’re about to be hit by a ball flying toward your face, it’s not as helpful in the classroom when the source of dysregulation is a math problem.
So what happens in these situations when students’ behaviors don’t seem appropriate to us, and we attempt to stop them? Well, it’s like playing whack-a-mole—if we simply suppress the behavior without addressing the dysregulation, it goes underground and pops up elsewhere. In fact, in these cases, we often increase the likelihood of an explosion or collapse as intensity rises and windows of tolerance shrink.
Instead, we can introduce moments of regulation, helping the student move through dysregulation and back to a place where they have options and choices for their behavior.
Key Insights
While it might seem counterintuitive, simply stopping a behavior actually increases the chances that dysregulation and unwanted behaviors will persist. Supporting students in moving through dysregulation is what widens their windows of tolerance and teaches them that they can handle challenging experiences.
Practical Takeaways
- Ask yourself, “How can I bring in a moment of regulation right now?” Try doing something that feels regulating to you, such as using breath, movement, or naming your experience out loud or in your head.
- Observe what the student’s body is naturally doing and offer a way to regulate through it. For example:
- If they tense their shoulders, try rolling your shoulders to model a way to release tension.
- If they slump over their desk, model bringing energy into your body through proprioceptive input, such as squeezing your arms or torso.
- Offering students ways to move through dysregulation helps shift their perception toward believing they can handle life’s challenges.
As you continue your journey in supporting students through regulation and growth, remember that small shifts can lead to lasting change. You’re not alone in this work—we’re here to support, encourage, and grow alongside you.
Thank you for being part of this incredible community. We can’t wait to hear how these insights and strategies make a difference for you and your students.
In friendship and support, 💛
Judy & Team SEI
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